Extra Tips for Meeting a Long Distance Interest
Be sure to use all of the tips mentioned above, plus the following tips, if you plan to travel to meet your online interest:
DO NOT plan to stay at the other person's home for your visit. If you cannot afford a hotel, do not go.
If you've made hotel reservations, do not tell the other person where you're staying. There is no need for them to contact you there. You can contact them.
Let them meet you at the airport, but do not get in a car with them. They can help you with your baggage and help you hail a cab. Use cabs as your mode of transportation throughout your trip.
Be sure to keep in touch with friends and family. Have a schedule in place as to when you should call. And make sure they know where you are staying and how to reach you. Again, this is a good time to carry and use a cellular phone.
Just in case...keep your valuables in an in-room safe or with the front desk - they often have safety deposit boxes available for free or a minimal charge.
When you leave, you can meet them at the airport to say goodbye. Do not let them drive you to the airport.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Going Offline for a Meeting...adulfinder-online
Going Offline for a Meeting...Safety First
Once you've agreed to meet face to face, don't ask the other person to pick you up. Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to ask a friend to drive you or take a taxi.
Before you go, make sure that several friends and family members know where you're going, who you're going with and when to expect you back. Make sure everyone writes down the information so that there are no misunderstandings.
Always meet in a public place. A public place does not mean a parking lot - they are not monitored closely enough to be considered safe. Make your first meeting a lunch or coffee date. If the sparks don't fly, it's much easier to say that you have a meeting or some other commitment that requires you to end the date prematurely.
Stay in a public place. If they pressure you to go elsewhere, say "NO." If they pressure you, they obviously do not care about your feelings - so it is best to end the meeting and leave. If they start to follow you to where you are parked, stop and hail a cab. Come back later for your car with a friend or family member.
If possible, bring a cellular phone. If you need help or feel a little nervous, excuse yourself to the bathroom and call for back-up! Put together an instant, "accidental" meeting with a friend. They're also good for emergencies or in case you think your online love is an offline stalker who's following you home. Use the cellular phone to call the police - DO NOT HEAD BACK HOME. Keep the person far from there and if you feel it's necessary, drive to a police station.
Never leave your personal belongings unattended. A purse or wallet contains all of your personal information. Keep your keys with you. Do not take unnecessary risks.
Do not leave your beverage unattended. If you do, nonchalantly ask for another drink.
Stick with non-alcoholic drinks. Being drunk is not a good way to be safe.
If all goes well, set up another date before the first one comes to an end. Be sure that this second date (and any others thereafter) incorporates all of these safety tips.
Once you've agreed to meet face to face, don't ask the other person to pick you up. Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to ask a friend to drive you or take a taxi.
Before you go, make sure that several friends and family members know where you're going, who you're going with and when to expect you back. Make sure everyone writes down the information so that there are no misunderstandings.
Always meet in a public place. A public place does not mean a parking lot - they are not monitored closely enough to be considered safe. Make your first meeting a lunch or coffee date. If the sparks don't fly, it's much easier to say that you have a meeting or some other commitment that requires you to end the date prematurely.
Stay in a public place. If they pressure you to go elsewhere, say "NO." If they pressure you, they obviously do not care about your feelings - so it is best to end the meeting and leave. If they start to follow you to where you are parked, stop and hail a cab. Come back later for your car with a friend or family member.
If possible, bring a cellular phone. If you need help or feel a little nervous, excuse yourself to the bathroom and call for back-up! Put together an instant, "accidental" meeting with a friend. They're also good for emergencies or in case you think your online love is an offline stalker who's following you home. Use the cellular phone to call the police - DO NOT HEAD BACK HOME. Keep the person far from there and if you feel it's necessary, drive to a police station.
Never leave your personal belongings unattended. A purse or wallet contains all of your personal information. Keep your keys with you. Do not take unnecessary risks.
Do not leave your beverage unattended. If you do, nonchalantly ask for another drink.
Stick with non-alcoholic drinks. Being drunk is not a good way to be safe.
If all goes well, set up another date before the first one comes to an end. Be sure that this second date (and any others thereafter) incorporates all of these safety tips.
Ways to increase your safety friend find online
Ways to increase your safety
Get Confirm ID, and ask them to get it too. Confirm ID is a free service that offers to increase your trust in dating. When you see the Confirm ID checkmark on a profile, it means we've checked the ID of the member and verified that they are a real person who matches their registration information.
Get their background checked, especially when planning to take the next step and meet the other person face to face. You can find several services online, many for a reasonable price. Even if you don't notice any red flags or get a gut instinct to back off, it is a matter of respecting yourself and your safety.
Don't put off meeting in person. While online relationships can be full of romance and intrigue, your ultimate goal is to meet someone, date them and possibly more. Why put it off? Why invest in a relationship online if it is going nowhere offline? Make sure the spark you get from your chat sessions and email also exists in the "real world". Red flags are anyone who puts it off or avoids answering your questions about meeting. And remember, if you do not have the money to invest in a long distance relationship, don't start one. Online dating requires that your brain and your heart work together to make the best and safest decisions for you.
Get Confirm ID, and ask them to get it too. Confirm ID is a free service that offers to increase your trust in dating. When you see the Confirm ID checkmark on a profile, it means we've checked the ID of the member and verified that they are a real person who matches their registration information.
Get their background checked, especially when planning to take the next step and meet the other person face to face. You can find several services online, many for a reasonable price. Even if you don't notice any red flags or get a gut instinct to back off, it is a matter of respecting yourself and your safety.
Don't put off meeting in person. While online relationships can be full of romance and intrigue, your ultimate goal is to meet someone, date them and possibly more. Why put it off? Why invest in a relationship online if it is going nowhere offline? Make sure the spark you get from your chat sessions and email also exists in the "real world". Red flags are anyone who puts it off or avoids answering your questions about meeting. And remember, if you do not have the money to invest in a long distance relationship, don't start one. Online dating requires that your brain and your heart work together to make the best and safest decisions for you.
Sexual Body Language
Sometimes it can be hard to tell what’s going on with your girl: Is she enjoying herself? Are you doing it right? Is she satisfied? Women can be hard to read, especially when it comes to sex. Though, all in all, if she is getting off you are bound to know about it on some level. If you’re not so sure and need some reassurance, check out her more subtle signs -- her sexual body language.
She will show you -- hopefully in no uncertain terms -- how you’re performing. Her body will display some overall signs of arousal that she can’t fake, but remember every woman is different. So, yes, it can often be just as difficult to get nonverbal feedback on your performance when there are so many variables. So, we've put together some general sexual body language signs that she's getting exactly what she wants from you.
Rapid breathing
Our breath when resting is a very peaceful and tranquil movement of air in and out of our lungs. It has the delightful title of "inspiration" for breathing in, and "expiration" for breathing out. When a woman is turned on, however, this breath comes in urgent puffs and probably has some involuntary moans escape with it as the air is forced quickly past her vocal cords. The increase in heart rate when her body prepares for orgasm means her internal organs and muscles are demanding more oxygen. If you can hear her breath change, you’re on the right track. If you can feel her heart thumping, you’re well on your way. This is her sexual body language giving you signals that she's aroused. However, if she's breathing normally after having her "big orgasm," perhaps she’s a big faker.
General writhing around and body movement
If your girl is curling her toes and writhing against you, chances are she's probably enjoying herself. Grinding and pushing against you means that she's really getting into it. If she's lying there limp, then things probably aren’t happening for her. Try changing positions, or stop entering her and warm her up from the beginning with your mouth or hands and see how her sexual body language progresses from there.
Thrusting hips
When she meets your thrusts, you’re doing something right. It's pretty safe to say that if she's matching your body movements and is in time with you, then she's getting something out of it. Good sex is often very synchronized, as that is how our bodies are designed to produce orgasm; repeated movements in the right spot build to a climaxing. The trouble is finding the right spot, of which there are many. If she isn’t meeting your thrusts then her sexual body language is telling you that she wants something else, so change positions and see how she responds.
Arms splayed out
If she's holding herself close she may not be feeling wild abandon -- her arms may be around you, her hands may be on your chest, above your head, wherever, except they're being held in close to her own body. If she's on top she may need her arms to maneuver herself and give herself some leverage to get the best angle. This is certainly not a definitive gesture, but can be useful. Her body should be responding to the situation at hand. She shouldn't be worried about covering herself up or where her arms are. If her arms are stretched wide, either held out to the side or splayed out on the bed sheets, you can bet her sexual body language is telling you you're right where you need to be and she's comfortable (and enjoying the ride).
Vaginal muscle movement
You have one of your most sensitive parts inside one of her most sensitive parts -- with each movement inside of her you can feel the walls of her vagina, the muscles and flesh. The vaginal wall is an incredibly strong muscle and she will probably use this to some extent for her own pleasure during sex. You may also feel the contracting and relaxing during orgasm -- her vagina spasms and this will clench you to some degree -- but not always, so don’t use that as a benchmark. Some women do have great control, and those who do are likely to have better sex and orgasms in general. If you don’t feel any clenching, don’t panic. You may know already by the feel of her vagina when she's not far away from orgasm -- she may let you enter further, or the overall sensation may be "just right" for you both. Only you can tell, so pay careful attention to her sexual body language and what’s going on inside of her.
learn the language of lovin'
Women love sex as much as men do, but what's sometimes missing is the self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the erotic best in himself and her. If you're unsure as to whether your lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what you’re doing and don’t assume that what worked for your other girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has different tastes and won’t necessarily respond to the same touches, so try a few different things and don’t stick to a routine. Experiment, tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, you’ll know you've hit just the right spot, so don't stop there.
Resources:
http://www.alovelinksplus.com
She will show you -- hopefully in no uncertain terms -- how you’re performing. Her body will display some overall signs of arousal that she can’t fake, but remember every woman is different. So, yes, it can often be just as difficult to get nonverbal feedback on your performance when there are so many variables. So, we've put together some general sexual body language signs that she's getting exactly what she wants from you.
Rapid breathing
Our breath when resting is a very peaceful and tranquil movement of air in and out of our lungs. It has the delightful title of "inspiration" for breathing in, and "expiration" for breathing out. When a woman is turned on, however, this breath comes in urgent puffs and probably has some involuntary moans escape with it as the air is forced quickly past her vocal cords. The increase in heart rate when her body prepares for orgasm means her internal organs and muscles are demanding more oxygen. If you can hear her breath change, you’re on the right track. If you can feel her heart thumping, you’re well on your way. This is her sexual body language giving you signals that she's aroused. However, if she's breathing normally after having her "big orgasm," perhaps she’s a big faker.
General writhing around and body movement
If your girl is curling her toes and writhing against you, chances are she's probably enjoying herself. Grinding and pushing against you means that she's really getting into it. If she's lying there limp, then things probably aren’t happening for her. Try changing positions, or stop entering her and warm her up from the beginning with your mouth or hands and see how her sexual body language progresses from there.
Thrusting hips
When she meets your thrusts, you’re doing something right. It's pretty safe to say that if she's matching your body movements and is in time with you, then she's getting something out of it. Good sex is often very synchronized, as that is how our bodies are designed to produce orgasm; repeated movements in the right spot build to a climaxing. The trouble is finding the right spot, of which there are many. If she isn’t meeting your thrusts then her sexual body language is telling you that she wants something else, so change positions and see how she responds.
Arms splayed out
If she's holding herself close she may not be feeling wild abandon -- her arms may be around you, her hands may be on your chest, above your head, wherever, except they're being held in close to her own body. If she's on top she may need her arms to maneuver herself and give herself some leverage to get the best angle. This is certainly not a definitive gesture, but can be useful. Her body should be responding to the situation at hand. She shouldn't be worried about covering herself up or where her arms are. If her arms are stretched wide, either held out to the side or splayed out on the bed sheets, you can bet her sexual body language is telling you you're right where you need to be and she's comfortable (and enjoying the ride).
Vaginal muscle movement
You have one of your most sensitive parts inside one of her most sensitive parts -- with each movement inside of her you can feel the walls of her vagina, the muscles and flesh. The vaginal wall is an incredibly strong muscle and she will probably use this to some extent for her own pleasure during sex. You may also feel the contracting and relaxing during orgasm -- her vagina spasms and this will clench you to some degree -- but not always, so don’t use that as a benchmark. Some women do have great control, and those who do are likely to have better sex and orgasms in general. If you don’t feel any clenching, don’t panic. You may know already by the feel of her vagina when she's not far away from orgasm -- she may let you enter further, or the overall sensation may be "just right" for you both. Only you can tell, so pay careful attention to her sexual body language and what’s going on inside of her.
learn the language of lovin'
Women love sex as much as men do, but what's sometimes missing is the self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the erotic best in himself and her. If you're unsure as to whether your lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what you’re doing and don’t assume that what worked for your other girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has different tastes and won’t necessarily respond to the same touches, so try a few different things and don’t stick to a routine. Experiment, tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, you’ll know you've hit just the right spot, so don't stop there.
Resources:
http://www.alovelinksplus.com
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